Still praying for Mom ... I would suspect Alsheimer's except that she has been having those sudden outbursts since I was a kid... She used to start talking to Jack's family that way, right at their Holiday Dinner table, during any family gathering, like at Thanksgiving , Christmas or Easter...We would be all crowded happily around the table at Jck's Mom's house at 2 Robin St. in Waterford, and everyone would be pleasantly chatting away, and then suddenly, out of the blue, Mom would start insulting them, making accusations, rambling on not making any sense, saying stuff that was completely unfounded,,,and Jack's family , who are Christian, would sit there, very patiently, and wait for Mom to run out of steam... and continue to be pleasant and pass the pies.... but as the years went on, Mom got bolder and more outspoken, and at this point, Jack's Mother Pat, and his Sister Pattie Ann,are the only family members that are willing to have contact with her, and Mom, still insults them, while they are eating with her. She is no longer invited to Jack's brother's hose. His brother can't tolerate my Mom's caustic tongue. My cousin Connie says her Mom, June's sister, was exactly the same way. Mom used to have outbursts with my Dad's family, and Dad;s sister Katherine, to this day, still remembers how shocking Mom's outbursts were. She's Christian, and she forgives her... but she remembers.
A few years back, I had done local resaearch at the library, of my family by checking old phone books and directories, and there was a pattern... Mom's family would move away from her, ... then Mom would move near them, ... then they would move away from her, again. Relatives have said to me ''Escape while you can''... but I decided I wanted to try to help her, and try to have a Mother daughter relationship with her, so I stayed. Mom has had such outbursts with Day care parents,and has lost many customers. Ivette gets it even worse, living under the same roof, and kids get yelled at like that, too... and it usually takes a while for the parents to notice. She was having an outburst like that with Danien, a young teen, and he simply walked away from her, went to his Aunt's house and refused to go back to June's Daycare. Mom had those outbursts with Omar, and he waited until the middle of the night, called a friend's family for help, they came to get him and Omar crawled ot a window in the playroom to escape, Mom's abusive tirades. and he's been gone, too years, now.... So the point, I'm making, is, that it's not just me, that she has her outbursts with, and generally speaking, it has nothing to do with any of the recipients of her outbursts, but she always blames everyone, for upsetting her. It's always the same behavior pattern, and same accusations and insults no matter whether a child, teen, family member, customer, rental tenant, contractor salesgirl, or whoever else..... So I continue to pray for her, and I have not abandoned he. Jack is amazing to stick by her.. My cousin Connie says Jack must have Stockholm Syndrome. lol but we do care about her and love her....and I will keep praying for her and being patient and kind, toward her, when I get the chance.
